At first I was very skeptical... Starting a relationship long distance? I understand if you've already been together and then one of you move away and that begens your LDR story, but starting a relationship with another person can be tricky at times and adding the distance doesn't exactly help... for most..
If anyone else I know wanted to start a relationship long distance I would tell them how dumb it was and that they're young! They should date people locally! But then that would make me a hypocrite...
Yes, being in a LDR is tough and frustrating at times, but you fight through it because you care for that person or you see some kind of future with that person.
Here are 5 Reasons Long Distance works for ME:
1. I'm annoying.
I'm sure if Nick spent 24 hours with me he would get tired of all my cat noises, annoying questions, and random stress out sessions. Yes, I still do all those things around him, but he thinks its cute because he doesn't deal with it 24/7...trust me.. ask my family, it gets annoying....
2. I pick at things.
"Sneeze one more time! I swear!"
Yeah... I get annoyed easily and I'm sure if he was here all the time I would find things to pick at...because that's what I do...WE ALL HAVE OUR FLAWS! OKAY?!
3. I want to take things slow.
I'm crazy about N, but I also am not ready for a marriage. No, N isn't going to propose to me tomorrow or maybe not at all, but this allows us to take things slow..exactly what I want!
4. We learn things new about each other all the time.
I feel like I know N pretty darn well, but I love when I find/figure out little quirks of his or things about his family and friends. Each minute fact makes me fall harder for him each time. Also, a lot of couples don't talk on the phone.. We wouldn't be where we are now in our relationship without our phone calls. We love.. well I love hearing his voice and the excitement in it when he talks about his day or the sadness when he lets me in his thoughts.
5. There's no pressure.
I am waiting till I'm married to have sex. I know not everyone chooses to do that, but that is one thing I will never give into. N has already had sex and that's okay with me. Some wonder if he will cheat, but I know him and he wouldn't let himself do that. The thing about LDRs is that you have to have communication, even if nothing exciting is happening. Because N and I spend so much time talking to each other and listening to one another, our relationship is stronger I believe. We're best friends. We tell each other everything. Not a lot of couples can say that.
Me and N are so busy with life that this works for us. I agree though, LDRs are NOT for everyone.
Are you in a LDR?
Would a LDR work for you?
Let me know what yall think!
Awesome post, Autumn! Keep it up! (I can't exactly relate, hence being single for life, but still) Very well written!
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