5 Reasons Long Distance Works For Me

 At first I was very skeptical... Starting a relationship long distance? I understand if you've already been together and then one of you move away and that begens your LDR story, but starting a relationship with another person can be tricky at times and adding the distance doesn't exactly help... for most..

  If anyone else I know wanted to start a relationship long distance I would tell them how dumb it was and that they're young! They should date people locally! But then that would make me a hypocrite...

Yes, being in a LDR is tough and frustrating at times, but you fight through it because you care for that person or you see some kind of future with that person.

Here are 5 Reasons Long Distance works for ME:

1. I'm annoying.

  I'm sure if Nick spent 24 hours with me he would get tired of all my cat noises, annoying questions, and random stress out sessions. Yes, I still do all those things around him, but he thinks its cute because he doesn't deal with it 24/7...trust me.. ask my family, it gets annoying....

2. I pick at things.

   "Sneeze one more time! I swear!"

Yeah... I get annoyed easily and I'm sure if he was here all the time I would find things to pick at...because that's what I do...WE ALL HAVE OUR FLAWS! OKAY?!

3. I want to take things slow.

  I'm crazy about N, but I also am not ready for a marriage. No, N isn't going to propose to me tomorrow or maybe not at all, but this allows us to take things slow..exactly what I want!

4. We learn things new about each other all the time.

  I feel like I know N pretty darn well, but I love when I find/figure out little quirks of his or things about his family and friends. Each minute fact makes me fall harder for him each time. Also, a lot of couples don't talk on the phone.. We wouldn't be where we are now in our relationship without our phone calls. We love.. well I love hearing his voice and the excitement in it when he talks about his day or the sadness when he lets me in his thoughts. 

5. There's no pressure.

  I am waiting till I'm married to have sex. I know not everyone chooses to do that, but that is one thing I will never give into. N has already had sex and that's okay with me. Some wonder if he will cheat, but I know him and he wouldn't let himself do that. The thing about LDRs is that you have to have communication, even if nothing exciting is happening. Because N and I spend so much time talking to each other and listening to one another, our relationship is stronger I believe. We're best friends. We tell each other everything. Not a lot of couples can say that. 

  Me and N are so busy with life that this works for us. I agree though, LDRs are NOT for everyone.

Are you in a LDR?

Would a LDR work for you?

Let me know what yall think!

xox

Christmas List Tradition: 2014

   Ever since I was little me and my siblings would write out a list with ten things on it that we wanted for Christmas. We would rummage through ads and catalogs looking for toys and clothes that we wanted then copied it down onto paper. When I was little it was Barbies and Baby Dolls, now that I'm twenty its clothes, jewelry, and craft stuff. I still write a ten item list out for mother goose and hope to get everything I write down! This year, due to my pricey taste I gained once entering college I wrote out a very...very... detailed list.

1.       Jewelry

·         Bourbon and bowtie bracelet (look on Etsy for knock offs)

·         Short agate necklace and matching earrings (Kendra scott.  Doesn’t have to be Kendra Scott.. just showing you what it looks like)

·         A watch (Fossil or kate spade?)

·         Coordinates bracelet/cuff

·         Fix my pearl necklace

·         Size my opal ring

·         Charm bracelet w/ charms

·         Lily and Laura Bracelets ($10 [the beaded bracelets I wear])

·         Alex and Ani bracelet

2.       Shoes

·         Tevas (Original Terra Cotta size 9, ORIGINAL SANDAL LEATHER METALLIC, Zirras-Red palm)

·         Hunter rain boots- Wide calf

·         Jack Rogers sandals

·         Grey Vans

·         TOMS

·         TOMS bootie wedges

·         Rainbow (the brand)  flip flops

·         Grey or black NIKES or custom

·         Mayari Birkenstock/tatami birkenstock sandals

3.       Clothes

·         Herringbone vest (Can be expensive- shop around and look at boutiques)

·         Workout clothes

·         Bras!!!!

·         Rain Jacket (thicker than the one I have now/preferably black or gray)

·         Nike clothes

·         Denim shirt (dark or design)

·         Fleece colored vest

·          Victoria Secret  oversized sweatshirt(crewneck)

4.       *Things For back packing

·         Backpack

·         Packing cubes/ ebags

·         Outlet changers

·         Fanny pack/pocket belts/ stomach wallets

·         Jewelry roll up carrier

5.       Craft stuff

6.       Printer ink and paper

7.       Ipad

8.       Advocare

  This year...due to my very detail list.... I only listed eight things. I also wrote down things I could use for my Europe trip this summer. I know I wont get EVERYTHING on this list, but it gives my parents choices. 

 Because I have a hard working, wonderful boyfriend, I got to write out two different Christmas lists this year! 

1.Fuzzy Socks
3.The third book to the Outlander series
4.Gift Cards
5.Monogrammed stuff
6. A scarf
7. Jewelry
8. A puppy that he takes care of and I just get to visit and name (;
9. Sims 4
10.Craft Stuff

All this was easy stuff that could be any price really. 

What are somethings you asked for?

Did you make list like these growing up?

Loveto read about your Christmas List Traditions!(:

xox

2014 Christmas list by bayoushortie featuring red flats

Be The Encourager and Supporter

"Being a girlfriend, fiancé or wife is not just about being beautiful and attractive for your guy. It's not just about letting him chase you, letting him do sweet things every time you're mad at him and not just receiving flowers and gifts during your anniversaries. It's not about doing those girly things just to get his attention and not just about feeling mighty every time he did everything you want. It's also being an emotional partner wherein you support him in every opportunity that he takes, you appreciate everything that he does for you and you thank him for doing it, you remind him on the things he must do and what he must not. Just because you know that you can always keep him on his feet doesn't mean you can manipulate him. You understand him not just as a partner but as an individual too. You help him in every way showing him, that in a relationship, there's no "I" or "you", there's only "we" and "us". You know also that a man has their ego, especially mine, and even when it becomes a little irritating sometimes, you still understand that it's a part of his nature. A girlfriend, finance, or wife is just not terms, it also has responsibilities that every girl must know. You're a friend, a sister, a second mom, a teacher, and a best friend. I think a lot of girls forget that."

This was beautifully written by my friend Jessika.

    I think a lot of times couples forget to be each others supporters and encouragers. You may not like their choices, but as their lover you should support them and encourage them with whatever they do in life. Now, This doesn't mean you should support them if they choose to do heroin, but if they choose to become an art major instead of an engineer then support them and when they realize they wont make any money then encourage them. If you love them, the money they make or the changes they go through will not deteriorate your feelings towards them.  

    We need to not just be lovers, we need to be best friends. As my friend said, "You're a friend, a sister, a second mom, a teacher, and a best friend." You're going to get on their nerves, and you're going to come off naggish sometimes. It happens. Sometimes they are going to need to hear the truth. And it may hurt, but wouldn't you rather hear it from your best friend then someone you hardly know? You need to be that second mom, their teacher, to steer them in the right direction in life. Now, this doesn't mean you should tell them they shouldn't be an art major, but you could weigh the pros and cons out with them. If its still what they truly want, then let them and support them through it. 


    My stud went to school for a year. Didn't do too well and didn't have the focus, so he left and started working. 2 and 1/2 years later he is going back and starting over. I think this is wonderful! He's grown up a bit, saved some money, and now knows what he wants to do. I support and encourage him through it all. I know I come off naggish sometimes to him when I remind him of due dates and things he needs to get together (second moming him..), but if you ask him and he has told me multiple times, he loves that I do. It might get on his nerves at the moment, but when he looks and sees what he has taken care of he knows I only want the best and push him to be his best.

 

"Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing."

- 1 Thessalonians 5:11

I love this verse because That is exactly what we need to do. We need to build each other up. 

How do you guys feel couples should be?

Should the women be the main supporter and encourager?

Should this be a priority at all?

I would love to hear your response! (:

xox

I lost a brother tonight, I do not know how.
I lost a brother tonight, I do not know why.
I lost a brother tonight, Could you tell?

I lost my brother tonight, I'm crumbling inside.


   Emotions aren't easy for me to show. I don't know how to handle them and I don't know how to react to sad situations. Today I found out I lost one of my brothers. Blood? No. But none the less my brother.

  He was my brother's best friend, brother, and future best man. He has lived with us off and on and just like my brother, he teased the mess out me. I don't understand why and never in a million years would I have thought this would have happened. I am in such a state of shock still. While at work tonight everyone asked if I was alright. I wasn't! I want to be home to grieve with y family. I don't how they are going to take it every time a piece of mail for him lands in our mailbox or when they funeral comes around and we travel to which ever state to hear the gun shots for the proper military funeral.

I lost my brother tonight.

20 Things From My Life

  Today in my LAS class we had to write down 20 things we remember from our past 19 years (or however old you were). They couldn't be personal, but more generic. For Example, You would put Instant Messaging, or Myspace. Something that has happen in your life that was some what new or big. My list looked a lot like this...

1. That So Raven
2. Easy Bake Oven
3. Nintendo 64
4. Game Boy Color
5. Pokemon
6. Dragon Ball Z
7. Hannah Montana
8. Bop It
9. Hurricane Katrina
10. Michael Jackson Died
11. Clinton Scandal
12. 9/11
13. Out-Of-The-Box
14. Operation Iraqi Freedom
15. Junie B. Jones Books
16. Computer games
17. Razor Scooters
18. Heelies
19. Bratz
20. BP Oil Spill

  The fact that #3-#6 are boy stuff makes me laugh. I obviously grew up with an older brother who wished he had a younger brother and not a younger sister...  

This list kinda makes me sad.. Like I look back at this stuff and realize most kids dont have Heelies now or have Brat dolls. This little girl in my gymnastic class the other day didn't even know who Hannah Montana is (maybe a good thing?) or even heard of Camp Rock. How depressing right?

Growing up sure does suck sometimes.

What would Yall's list look like??

xox

-Aut

Lets be honest here...

   I can't keep a gypsy blog when all I do is school...in the same city.... Hopefully one day I will be able to travel the world and see new places! For right now, I'm just going to keep a college average girl blog. Sound good? Maybe a few gypsy life post here and there, but come on... who wants to hear my coffee shops stories over and over and over again? NOT ME! So! Here is to a new beginning and a new writing path! If any of you fellow bloggers have any ideas, let me know!